:) :) :)

i really miss my bhakti ariando saputra.. ga ada yang laen..
thanks god, he is here with me ..
he teaches me everything..
he give me everything..
he give whatever i needed.
he let me do pretty much whatever i want.
:)
:)
:)
i want him be my last one :)
i love u , so :)

progesterex BAD EFFECT for women :(

Ladies, be more alert and cautious when getting a drink offer from a guy. Good guys out there, please forward this message to your lady friends. Andboyfriends,take heed. There is a new drug that has been out for less than a year.

Progesterex,that is a essentially a small steriliziation pill. The drug is now being used by rapists at parties to rape AND sterilize their victims. Progesterex is available to vets to sterilize large animals. Rumour has it that the Progesterex is being used together with Rohypnol, the date rape drug. As with Rohypnol, all they have to do is drop it into the girl’s drink. The girl can’t remember a thing the next morning, of all that had taken place the night before.

Progesterex, which dissolves in drinks just as easily, is such that the victim doesn’t conceive from the rape and the rapist needn’t worry about having a paternity test identifying him months later.

The drug’s effects AREN’T TEMPORARY. Progesterex was designed to sterilize horses. Any female that takes it WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO CONCEIVE. The crooks can get this drug from anyone who is in the vet school of any university.

It’s that easy, and Progesterex is about to break out big on campuses everywhere. Believe it or not, there is even a site on the internet telling people how to use it. Please forward this to everyone you know, especially the gals.

Ten Basic Principles of a GOOD PARENTING

Here is a quick overview of the Ten Basic Principles:
1. What you do matters.
“Tell yourself that every day. How you treat and respond to your child should come from a knowledgeable, deliberate sense of what you want to accomplish. Always ask yourself: What effect will my decision have on my child?”
2. You cannot be too loving.
“When it comes to genuine expressions of warmth and affection, you cannot love your child too much. It is simply not possible to spoil a child with love. What we often think of as the product of spoiling a child is never the result of showing a child too much love. It is usually the consequence of giving a child things in place of love—things like leniency, lowered expectations or material possessions.”
3. Be involved in your child’s life.
"Being an involved parent takes time and is hard work, and it often means rethinking and rearranging your priorities. It frequently means sacrificing what you want to do for what your child needs you to do. Be there mentally as well as physically.”
4. Adapt your parenting to fit your child.
“Make sure your parenting keeps pace with your child’s development. You may wish you could slow down or freeze-frame your child’s life, but this is the last thing he wants. You may be fighting getting older, but all he wants is to grow up. The same drive for independence that is making your three-year-old say ‘no’ all the time is what’s motivating him to be toilet trained. The same intellectual growth spurt that is making your 13-year-old curious and inquisitive in the classroom also is making her argumentative at the dinner table.”
5. Establish and set rules.
“If you don’t manage your child’s behavior when he is young, he will have a hard time learning how to manage himself when he is older and you aren’t around. Any time of the day or night, you should always be able to answer these three questions: Where is my child? Who is with my child? What is my child doing? The rules your child has learned from you are going to shape the rules he applies to himself.”
6. Foster your child’s independence.
“Setting limits helps your child develop a sense of self-control. Encouraging independence helps her develop a sense of self-direction. To be successful in life, she’s going to need both. Accepting that it is normal for children to push for autonomy is absolutely key to effective parenting. Many parents mistakenly equate their child’s independence with rebelliousness or disobedience. Children push for independence because it is part of human nature to want to feel in control rather than to feel controlled by someone else.”
7. Be consistent.
“If your rules vary from day to day in an unpredictable fashion, or if you enforce them only intermittently, your child’s misbehavior is your fault, not his. Your most important disciplinary tool is consistency. Identify your non-negotiables. The more your authority is based on wisdom and not on power, the less your child will challenge it.”
8. Avoid harsh discipline.
“Of all the forms of punishment that parents use, the one with the worst side effects is physical punishment. Children who are spanked, hit or slapped are more prone to fighting with other children. They are more likely to be bullies and more likely to use aggression to solve disputes with others.”
9. Explain your rules and decisions.
“Good parents have expectations they want their child to live up to. Generally, parents overexplain to young children and underexplain to adolescents. What is obvious to you may not be evident to a 12-year-old. He doesn’t have the priorities, judgment or experience that you have.”
10. Treat your child with respect.
“The best way to get respectful treatment from your child is to treat him respectfully. You should give your child the same courtesies you would give to anyone else. Speak to him politely. Respect his opinion. Pay attention when he is speaking to you. Treat him kindly. Try to please him when you can. Children treat others the way their parents treat them. Your relationship with your child is the foundation for her relationships with others.”
There is no guarantee that following these guidelines will result in perfect parents... remember, there is no such thing!
“Raising children is not something we think of as especially scientific,” says Steinberg. “But parenting is one of the most well-researched areas in the entire field of social science. It has been studied for 75 years, and the findings have remained remarkably consistent over time."
“The advice in the book is based on what scientists who study parenting have learned from decades of systematic research involving hundreds of thousands of families. What I’ve done is to synthesize and communicate what the experts have learned in a language that non-experts can understand.”

saat seorang anak kecil ingin bercinta,

untuk adik perempuanku...
tidak ada alasan untuk mnilai definis2 ttg arti cinta..
lebih bijaksana kalu kita melihat nya sebagai "tahapan2 cinta".
kalau kamu masih sangat muda, tidak mungkin kamu bisa memahamiarti cinta sebagaimana org dewasa memahami nya.. termauk bagaimana kk laki2 mu mamahami nya...
tapi, bukan berarti kamu tidak merasakan cinta yang sejati.. menurutku, itu lah yang kamu rasakan,,
saya akan coba jelaskan..
kita ambil perumpmaan memancing,, pertama kamu memancing,,kamu melemparkan kail ke dalam air dan berharap ada ikan yang akan tersangkut.. kedua kali. kamu akan memasang umpan di kail itu, dan ketiga kali, kamu sudah tau jam dan sudah tau tempat yang tepat untuk memnacing..
kamu akan lebih memiliki informasi dan kebijaksanaan lebih besar.setiap kali kamu pergu memancing,,, tapi tidak berati saat pertama kali kamu pergi kamu tidak memancing bukan??
saya suka kesal kalu org dewasa mengatakan anak kecil tidak mengetahui ttg arti cinta.. kalau mau jujur sepenuhnya, sebenernya kenangan2 cinta yang paling indah saat hidup kita adalah saat kita remaja.. sering kali yang diingat org dewasa hanyalah kesulitan kesulitan yang dialami dan kekurangannya serta ketidakbijaksanaannya dahulu... tapi sebenrnya, juga ada cinta sejati..
jangan menganggap kecil perasaan2 mu, sayang... cinta yang kamu rasakan terhadap orang lain itu sesuatu yang sangat istimewa... cinta itu nyata, kalau cinta memasuki kehidupanmu.. jalan apapun yang ditempuh nya... ingatlah bahwa perasaan itu merupakan suatu hadiah yang sangat berharga..

i love u, ami :)

sensitivitas

kalo gue pikir2..
kenapa sih yang namanya perasaan cewek itu bisa mendominasi hampir 70% hari hari mereka?
moody banget..
kadang kita cew bisa jadi gagal dalam melakukan suatu hal karena kita lagi punya masalah atau beban pikiran..
atau kita malah bisa berhasil dalam melakukan sesuat hkarena bantuan mood kita yang sangat baik..
tapi.. satu keajaiban lagi yang gue salut banget sama cew yang feeling nya ga bisa di sangkal lagii.. kalo udah punya feeling. pasti bener..
thats my mommy.

love of life :)

hmm..
nama nya bhakti ariando saputraa..
kalo mau nyeritain pertemuan gue sama diaa.. ga ada yang special gue rasa..
cuma kenalan, smsan, telfon2an..
ga tau kenapa, gue bisa memutuskan membuka hati dengan dia..
setelah semua yang terjadi di hidup guee...
i dont think that i can love some one anymore..
bhakan gue ga pernah berfikir bahwa ada orang yang bisa menerima gue dengan apa ada nya gue..
mengenal bhaktii itu sangat amazing buat gue..
gimana ga, gue yang tadinya ngerasa ga pernah bakalan dijagain sama siapapun..
yang tadinya gue ngerasa my life is soo freeeelyy..
hmm.. he is just gotmy heart..
eniweiii..
lets talk more later..
dy nelpon nih :)

live in jatinangor is so such a colourful life :)

temen2 gue dikosan..always spend my time with them. everyday. every second. we always hangingout together. cry and laugh together... hmm..hope we will getting success togheter :) sampe nanti nya anak2 kita juga temenan. ketemu lagi, arisaaan.. happy2.. hahaha.. amin,,

when i fall in love <3

gue mungkin bukan pertama kali nya jatuh cintaa.. yaa.. gue udah pernah beberapa kali jatuh cinta.. dan merasakan yang namanya seneng dan sedih dalam jatuh cintaa..
semua nya gue jalanin dengan santai dan go with the flow..
walaupun, ga munaa.. gue juga ngerasain sakit, jatoh, dan hancur..
gimana ga.. ketika lo udah terlanjir yakin (walopun klo gue pikir2 skg, itu cuma ego kelabilan gue aja,,) trus ternyata yg ada ancur juga ancur juga..
hahaha..
eniwei..
semua perasaan itu sangat istimewa menurut gue..
gimana ga,,
saat lo jatuh cintaa.. semua perasaan lo begituuu indah.. lo berasa disurga malah..
semua hal jelek dalam hidup lo kayak hilang gitu aja..
terbaaang.. senyum2 mulu,, wwajah lo berseri2.. semua terasa mudah deh pokoknya buat lo..
tepai, saat lo jatuh..semua menjadi langsung kebalik gtu aja..
lo sedih, nangis, sakit, stress, bahkan kayaknya dunia lo udah selesai gitu aja,,
hmm..
eniwei, kalo menurut gue.. ketika gue jatoh.. itu adalah titik balik gue untuk menjad orang yang jauh lebih baik lagi..
titik balik gue untuk "pergi memancing" lagi tapi dengan persiapan dan umpan yang lebih mantep tentunyaa... siapa tau yang gue dapetin itu malah lele jumbo..
hhehe..
dont ever give up girls..
when u feel like your worldin end. that is the beggining for a new century :)

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ga seharusnya mungkin gue ngebenci bokap gue sampe kayak gini nyaaa...
yaa.. setidaknya, dia adalah bokap kandung gue..
apapun yang terjadi, gue ga bisa ngilangin itu semua,,
hmm..
mungkin gue harus belajar buat memaafkan..
memaafkan dan memaafkan..
lagi lagi.. gue harus brbesar hati..
nyokap gue aja bisa. kenapa gue ga...
buat semua lelaki di dunia. yang nantinya akan menjad seorang ayah...
tolong berikan tanda cinta mu kepada anak dan istri mu..
jaga mereka, sayangi mereka, nafkahi mereka..
jangan sesekali kalian menyakiti atau menelantarkan mereka,
karena suatu hari nanti, kalian akan menyeseli semua itu,,
apalagi ketika anak kalian sama sekali tidak menghormati kalian..
dan sesungguhnya, itu bukan mau merekaa.. kalian yang meminta untuk diperlakukan seperti itu,,,

nih yah,..
gara2 kejadian dihidup gue. semua itu baut gue hati2 banget buat milih siapa yang bakalan ada disamping gue ampe gue tua a.k.a my husband..
soalnyaaa... gue ga mau anak gue ngerasain apa yanggue rasain.. rasa nya di tlantarin bokap.. rasa nya ga dianggep ama bokap.. rasa nya sakit parah tapi bokap lo nath kemana.. rasa nya pas lo sakit, dan nyokap lo mau bawa lo kerumah sakit. tapi bokap lo malah bilang "ah,,, gapapa.. ga usah dibawa kerumah sakit, buang2 duit. tar jga sembuh" astagfirullah...sakiit nyaaa..
semoga tuhan ngasiih gue suami yang selalu sayang sama gue apa ada nya..
nerima gue... sayangin gue dan anak2 nyaa.. dan bisa jadi iman yang baik. amin,

short story bout mirra.

terlahir dari seorang wanita tangguh bernama erni zainuddin membuat gue merasa menjadi anak yang paling bahagia di dunia. gimana ga, dari gue kecil. dari gue bayi.. nyokap gue berjuang seorang diri buat ngebesarin gue. bokap? iya gue punya. namanya Yudi M Suyud. tapi jangan pernah tanyakan apa yang udah dia lakuin buat gue sepanjang hidup gue. karena gue sendiri ga pernah tau. karena emang menurut gue ga ada yag dia lakuin. bahkan gue ragu, apakah dia bener2 peduli sama gue atau ga. eh gue juga punya seorang ade, namanya rahmi rahma andini. cewek cantik yang polos dan sangat manja ini ngasih berjuta warna yang sangat dberagam buat gue. temen gue, musuh gue, adek gue, sahabat gue, semua yang gue punya, ga pernah lengkap tanpa dia. meskipun gue sering banget berantem dan bilang benci sama dia. gue ga pernah bener2 benci sama dia. gue sangat mencintai dia.